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Posts tagged ‘therapeutic relationship’

New Beginnings

20140107-145801.jpgIn my preparation for coming ‘back to work’ I glanced through old comments and notifications and found a comment left in 2008 “How do I know I am with the right therapist”? I don’t know how I answered back then, but today I thought “What an interesting question”. How do therapists/counsellors know that they are right for a particular client, and how do clients know that they are with the right therapist?

Often both clients and therapists fall prey to the assumption that therapy is the only path to recovery and/or that therapy with a particular therapist is the only path to healing. This is a dangerous assumption. Let’s not forget, the client is doing the healing, not the therapist. The capacity of the seed to become a fully grown, healthy plant is within he plant, not with he gardener. He or she is only providing an environment in which that growth can accelerate. When the seed is not growing the gardener has failed to provide the appropriate environment. (more…)

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How To Get Over Childhood Stress: The Process Of Healing

I have explained in the previous article “How to Get Over
Childhood Stress: The Process of Getting Hurt"
how childhood experiences became
part of the child’s neurological physiology that over time, through re-enforcement
and repetition becomes an aspect of its personality structure.

The task of recovery is to stop the process of repetition
and re-enforcement of the unwanted beliefs, thoughts, and behaviours and to
encourage new, positive ways of being in this world. Thus new neuro-pathways
need to be created (if you remember that has to happen through experience!!) or
if they exist but are just faint connections they have to be strengthened
through more and regular traffic. At the same time it has to be avoided to go
down the familiar path of neuro-connections that are negative and unhelpful so
that they wither away. On paper that sounds very easy, doesn't it?

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