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Overall Health Improvements

Have a look at this short video clip describing enormous health benefits for both physical and mental health of a ‘medicine’ that doesn’t cost anything! I know this sounds very mysterious, but I don’t want to say any more to encourage you to watch it. It’ll be 9 minutes well spent!

Overindulgence and Impulse Control

Eatingcake It is no secret that a lot of what people do is motivated by their need for being happier. There are those who indulge in excessive eating, drinking, using drugs, shopping, exercising, or ranting and raving at every other person around them, to name just some examples. All in the service of making good feelings stay longer and/or bad feelings to go away.

They overindulge in a 'pet-activity' not for the activity's sake, but in a vain attempt to regulate their emotions, to feel better – often to the detriment of one's health, financial situation, or relationships.


Keep Romance Alife in Your Relationship

Couple romance A common perception is that after a while relationships lose their romantic touch and turn into something more akin companionship and friendship. However, a group of researchers have investigated a large number of studies to find out whether this common perception is true.

They found that we don't have to settle for 'luke warm'. Indeed, they say it is perfectly possible to have lifelong romance and passion in your relationship. More so, people who report more romance in their relationship are usually more satisfied and happy. A key to romantic love seems to be the feeling that "…my partner is there for me".

So, don't settle for less, don't restrict your expections. You can have longlasting romance in your relationships. It is attainable. However, you have to work with focus on devotion on having lasting romance in your life!

Read the original research article here


A Model Of Change

Normal_change0 Many people want to make changes in their lives. Change can have many faces, but no matter what change people aim for, it's always a difficult process. Whether you want to loose weight, stop smoking, exercise regularly, stop eating sugar, or leave a relationship changing is always much more difficult than people anticipate. 

Often people get angry with themselves for not sticking with 'the programme' or they suffer criticism or 'friendly' teasing from friends and family members who can't understand that the person won't stick with their decision.

I thought the following stage model of change from Prochaska and DiClemente  might be a useful piece of information to help people in their process of Change. My advice: don't be too hard on yourself. Change is a process that often goes back and forth. It may have distinct stages, but don't expect to manage them in a clear line. As always: Self-compassion goes a long way.

Stage of Change


How can you help and encourage the person ?


currently considering change: "Ignorance is bliss"

lack of readiness

decision is theirs

re-evaluation of current behavior

self-exploration, not action

and personalize the risk of not changing


about change: "Sitting on the fence"

considering change within the next month but getting emotionally ready to implement change

lack of readiness

decision is theirs

person to look at the pros and cons of behavior change

and promote new, positive outcome expectations that will come with change


Person has some
experience with change and is trying to change:

"Testing the
waters"  – preparation could be f.e. looking up information, saving money,

to act within 1month

and assist in problem solving re: obstacles

patient identify social support

that patient has underlying skills for behavior change

small initial steps


Change has been made and new behavior needs to be practiced. This takes about 3-6 months.

People need a lot of support and encouragement in this phase.


on restructuring cues and social support

self-efficacy for dealing with obstacles

feelings of loss and reiterate long-term benefits


commitment to sustaining new behavior

months to 5 years

for follow-up support

internal rewards i.e. feeling better, more self-confidence etc.

coping with relapse


of old behaviors: "Fall from grace"

trigger for relapse

motivation and barriers

stronger coping strategies

Long or Short Term Therapy

Freud When I go to see a doctor for a health issue, I hope to be given the treatment and/or advice that will get me 'cured' as soon as possible. I assume the same goes for many people who go to see a therapist for their emotional and/or mental health problems. They hear the phrase "long term therapy" and are probably immediately put off the idea. Understandably, everybody wants to be 'cured' quickly.


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