Over the last 20 years positive psychology and positive thinkers have suggested that by simply following a number of steps ‘Happiness’ is in our grasp. Who would not like the idea? But wait a minute …. if there were only 3, 5, or 7 steps to Happiness, would people not have achieved it by now? People are not stupid – at least not the majority. So what is wrong with the picture?
Happiness is not a commodity, a trade-able good that can be acquired by following a prescribed formula – like how to start your car’s engine. (more…)
The Auckland Three Principles Meet-up Group (check out here their website) is a place to learn about and deepen your understanding of the Three Principles as formulated by Sydney Banks and practiced today in many countries by a growing number of facilitators / coaches / counsellors in a wide number of contexts: business, personal growth, prisons, schools, families, sport, and high performance activities.
We had an interesting meeting last Friday during which we explored how people sustain their well-being. I would like to share one topic that comes up really frequently and … hence again last night as well: Why it is not useful to look back! It is easy to say “don’t look back – you are not going that way”, but people seem to get caught in trying to understand the thoughts that caused their distressing feelings. (more…)
Sometimes our relationships are nothing like we’ve imagined it. Sometimes we come to a dead-end and find that we don’t have a clear idea where to go from here.
What is the secret of people who have great relationships, who have loving intimate partners, get along well with their kids, have friends who are fun to be around, and colleagues who are supportive and co-operative?
A common misunderstanding is that you have to find the ‘right’ partner, the ‘right’ boss to work for, the ‘right’ friends. And if that is not helping, you have learn how to communicate better, how to listen actively, how to challenge effectively – in summary how to do things right.
How can you awaken innate health?
Innate Health implies that you are born with it – thus there is nothing to do. That may sound odd for some, given that people in general are working hard on achieving happiness or peace of mind and well-being. Where is your innate health when you feel in the throes of stress, depression, self-doubt, or anxiety? (more…)
Beliefs form an integral part of our experience and determine to a large extend our behaviour. Indeed, for many people, religious beliefs, political beliefs, or social beliefs are at the core of those things that are most important to them. They dedicate their lives to serve their political, religious, or social convictions.
On one hand the infinitely different beliefs people, groups, and cultures hold have always caught people’s interest. We travel into the farthest corners of the world to experience different cultures and we marvel at and are inspired by the architectural expressions of their beliefs that differ so much from ours. (more…)
As I am preparing for my workshops “Health Seminars” for the new year I am delving specifically into the structure and the importance THOUGHTS and BELIEFS have in people’s lives. Henry Ford, the founder of Ford Motors and the inventor of the assembly line technique of mass production is quoted to have said “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are always right”. Our beliefs have a pivotal influence on our sense of identity and all other aspects of being. Be careful what you tell yourself or think about yourself – your body will go to enormous lengths to comply. (more…)