Most people are interested in finding happiness. We measure our quality of life by being happy, by having a deep-seated sense of well-being and peace of mind, by being content with where we are heading in our life.
Positive Psychology has given us plenty of research data that shows that happy people have longer lives and have significantly better physical and mental health. All good reasons to pursue happiness, aren’t they?
Positive Psychology has also provided us with plenty of ideas and steps of how to achieve happiness. They are not particularly earth-shattering news, rather more common sense: eat well, sleep well, have good friends, have good relationships, have a job you enjoy, and have time to relax and have fun. You can read up about those steps in an article I wrote 3 years ago.
Now, 3 years later, the question that has to be asked is how come that in spite of these simple guide lines people are not entering the place of bliss-full happiness by the millions? It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to follow these common sense steps. Why are we not turning into a world full of very, very happy people?
Because we’ve missed the Master Key to Happiness!
Everybody can see that there is a connection between happiness and how we navigate through the rapids of life. How then do we understand that millions of intelligent people, who easily get the positive psychology mantra to happiness and well-being, are unable to maintain happiness?
The key is the fact that happiness cannot come from things you do, people you meet, or riches you accumulate – happiness can only come from within you *. Let me give you an example: You are in a very depressed mood, or very unhappy about something and your friend wants to cheer you up by pulling all sorts of ‘look-at-the-bright-side-acts’. After a while you are not only depressed or unhappy but also very grumpy or even angry. Nobody and nothing can make you happy unless it comes from within you.
Unless happiness comes from deep inside you, all happiness exercises are like a thin oily layer of happiness on top of the deep waters of misery. Think about it: How often had you heard yourself or someone else say “I have so many things to be thankful for, why am I still unhappy, what is the matter with me?” It doesn’t make sense, does it?
* check out my next workshop ‘Health Seminars” that will show how to get in touch with your inner creative force to achieve happiness, peace of mind, and overall physical and mental well-being.