The fabric of our society is changing. Even though growing up most girls and boys see themselves in the future happily married with or without children, single people households today already outnumber family households. This is true for New Zealand (source statistics New Zealand) and probably reflects a worldwide trend. Singles who are 40 years and older make up the fastest growing group of singles who seek a (new) partner today.
However, most ‘mature’ singles are finding out that there are very few opportunities to meet other singles. Traditional ways of meeting prospective partners don’t seem to exist anymore. The heart warming News Zealand tradition of the Saturday dance in the community hall, where people meet, is well and truly history.
Online Dating websites have taken over from traditional introduction service, replacing the ‘personal ad’ in the lonely heart section of the weekend newspaper. Today, the single person who is looking for love, friendship, or romance can browse through the registered members of online dating sites, look at photos, and skim through people’s profiles.
On the ‘Pro’ side, there is lots of information available and each profile will give you a good impression of what kind of a person you are dealing with. You can make a much better informed choice when you think of contacting someone.
On the ‘Con’ side, like in all other locations (bars, clubs, etc.) you might come across someone who is dishonest, sends out false signals, and is just interested in some form of sexual or financial exploitation.
One thing is sure, online dating has become today’s way of meeting new people. You still have to employ common sense, you still have to check the person out; you still have to see whether there is chemistry between you; you still have to work on establishing a healthy relationship. There are no shortcuts to lasting love.