Today I want to focus on happiness. Why? I am glad you asked. Most clients, when they come to counselling, they have as a goal to feel better. When asked, they respond “I want to be happy”. Although the therapist in me cringes when I hear that, because happiness can be so many things and is so different for everybody, I do understand people’s strive to happiness. Who wouldn’t want to be happy?
So the question is, how do you do “DON’T WORRY – BE HAPPY”? In principle, I think, there are two different schools of thought on this matter. One proclaims that dealing with the things that cause your unhappiness (past experiences ob neglect, abuse, or hurt in general) is the way to go. The other is adamant that focusing on the positive things in your life and on what you want will be the golden highway to bliss and happiness.
Where do I stand? I think the secret is in BALANCE. Don’t get me wrong, I am not talking about sitting on the fence. Balance is meant as: addressing the issues that hold you back by breaking the chains that stop you from moving forward as well as shedding more light on what is going well and what you can actively engage in that’ll make your day a good one.
How to get the balance right? My guess is you don’t. The nature of balance is that it’s hardly ever still in perfect horizontal level. It goes up and down compensating constantly for too much or too little. All we have to do is look out for the signs and balance things out.